第二十二章　一起面对寂寞的天空

[1] Wilson（1978），p. 148.

2. Holmberg（1969），p. 258.

[3] “美国人的婚姻还有救吗？”（Is There Hope for the American Marriage?”），卡特琳。弗拉纳甘（Caitlin Flanagan）《时代周刊》，2009年7月2日，星期四。 http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0，8599，1908243，00.html。

[4] 这些德鲁克曼的话均引自2007年7月8日《观察家》（The Observer）上的书评。

[5] Jaynes（1990），p. 67.

[6] “婚姻意味着什么？”Dan Savage. In Salon.com，July 17，2004: http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2004/07/17gay_marriage/index.html。

[7] Philip Weiss在New York杂志的文章“The affairs of men: The trouble with sex and marriage”（2008年5月18日）中引用了Squire的话。在线阅读地址：http://nymag.com/relationships/sex/47055。

[8] “只有你，还有你，以及你”作者杰西卡。班内特（Jessica Bennett）。《新闻周刊》（Newsweek）（网络专版）2009年7月29日。http://www.newsweek.com/id/209164。

[9] Hrdy（2001），p. 91.

[10] “群婚景象（Scenes from a group marriage）”，作者雷尔德·哈里森（Laird Harrison），见Salon.com。http://mobile.salon.com/mwt/feature/2008/06/04/open_marriage/index.html。

[11] http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2009/01/tedhaggard-a-1.html.

[12] McElvaine（2001），p. 339.

[13] Perel（2006），p. 192.

[14] Gould（2000），pp. 29-31.

[15] 关于20世纪70年代美国许多人的开放式婚姻尝试，参阅Nena和George O’Neill的著作。

[16] Perel（2006），pp. 192-194.

[17] Burnham & Phelan（2000），p.195.

[18] Perel（2006），p. 197.

[19] Bergstrand & Blevins Williams（2000）.

[20] Easton & Liszt（1997）.

[21] 读者可以在这个网站收听新闻发布会： www.thisamericanlife.org/Radio_Episode.aspx?episode=95。

[22] 我们最早在Weil（1981）的书中得知日月之间的有趣关系：这本谈万物有灵——从日食到熟透的芒果都有灵的书非常令人着迷。

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