Dr. Lillian Rubin: Well, it's not a when. Before you can decide that, one has to know oneself pretty well, which means that you have to have had some experience with knowing that your hunches. And it's knowing your strengths and weaknesses - really important - if you think you can do anything, you're going to fail. Every one of us has strengths and weaknesses.
Van de Mark: I hear two things here. One is the self-awareness, which we can get into a little bit more, but also this notion of testing: making sure that when you do act on a hunch, that you make sure that you're testing a little bits before you make big decisions.
Dr. Lillian Rubin: Exactly! But, and not only testing, but supposing you say, "OK, my gut tells me I'm gonna go on that path not this one", you take... you go half a mile down the road, know when it's a mistake. When you get to the point when you say, "Uh, I think I should turn back." Go!
Van de Mark: Self-awareness; this bigger, broader question. Knowing what you truly want, knowing what really fits with your life - choosing a spouse, for instance, or choosing a place to live or a job or boss - what questions should you ask yourself and should you ask them all the time?
Dr. Lillian Rubin: Well, I think yes. When you're, when 2)sorting out those big issues, you'd better be asking all the time. Those self-awareness requires an ability to listen to your inner voice, and to know that you don't always do what you want to do, but that you might do what you should do. I don't mean that one should live with "shoulds", but often we want, you know, talk about getting married, people want to marry, to fall in love and marry their little ideal type. It may be exactly the wrong thing for them. And how many people do you know and I know, who, you know, on their wedding day, they said to themselves, "What are you doing?" And then went ahead and got married.
Van de Mark: How many people do you know? I mean you've counseled so many, how many of them felt that way?
Dr. Lillian Rubin: Many. Many. It's not uncommon. It isn't just the anxiety of the moment; it's, there's been this inner voice that's been saying, "Maybe this is not right." And they don't listen because there's too much invested in that path.
Van de Mark: Here are a few thoughts on going with your gut from those who have.
Howard Schultz: How many people have you met in your life who have said things like, "I had that idea", "I knew about that", or "I was so close but I gave up". I think sometimes the difference between success and failure, winning and losing, is a very fine line between those people who'll continue to move forward.
Sumner Redstone: You can't be sure of yourself. To a large extent, you have to follow your instincts. And what are your instincts? Experience, and I'd like to think some degree of intellectual capacity, ah, and that's what instinct is. You have to be a risk-taker.
Jack Welch: Getting self-confidence is at the heart of success, in every aspect of life.
Paul Shaw: 3)In terms of the major trend what might happen over the next five years, a lot of that is intuition. But it's 4)intuition that's really 5)steeped in 6)observance, it's not just sorta waking up one day and saying, I think people are, you know, suddenly gonna do this instead of that. It's, it's really intuition and instinct because of all the different things you're sensing.
Marleen McDaniel: I think all 7)setbacks are to your advantage. I mean, like, just when one door closes, another door is opening. And frequently, these setbacks are planted there, and so maybe there is fate and I might even believe in it. But they are planted there. They may require you to change direction -- you may have stayed in a situation long after, it's done its usefulness, because this life really is about learning and growing, you've gotta just keep moving with that energy that's all around us all the time.
成功真的要靠直觉吗？
范·德·马克：莉莲，我想知道人们会在什么时候认定某件事情不只是直觉，而是可以付诸行动的呢？
莉莲·鲁宾博士：什么时候并不重要。在做决定之前，你必需十分了解自己，即有必要做一些试验来了解自己的直觉是怎样的。清楚自己的长处和短处是十分重要的。如果你认为自己什么事情都能做得来，你注定会失败。我们每个人都有自己的长处和短处。
范·德·马克：你说到了两个要点：第一是自我认识，我们稍后再探讨；第二是试验的观念--当你要按直觉行事时，记住：在作出重大决定之前要试验清楚。
莉莲·鲁宾博士：不错！但是，不只要试验，倘若你说：“我感到要走那条路而不是这条”，走了一段路程后，当你发现自己选错了，你会说：“哦，我应该回头。”那么，你就不要犹豫，去做！
范·德·马克：自我认识是个更重要、更广泛的问题。要知道什么是你真正想要的，什么是真正适合你的：例如择偶或找新房子、新工作或新老板，你应该问自己些什么问题呢？你是否应经常性地问自己呢？
莉莲·鲁宾博士：我想是这样的。在做重大决定时，最好坚持多问自己问题。自我认识需要你聆听内心的声音，你要明白自己未必总是在做你想做的事情，你也许只是在做你应该做的事情。我不是说人该被“应该”两个字困着，但你知道的，我们却经常会做我们应该做的事。用婚姻举例说明：人人都想结婚，想坠入爱河然后跟理想的对象结婚。他们这么做恰好是错误的。你认识多少这样的人--我就认识很多--他们直到结婚的当天才问自己：“你在干什么？”其结果是他们还是结了婚。
范·德·马克：你认识多少这样的人？我的意思是你给很多人做过咨询，有多少人会有那种感觉呢？
莉莲·鲁宾博士：很多很多，这不是什么罕见的事。那种不是一时的婚姻焦虑感，而是你内心在告诉你“也许这个决定是错的。”但他们没有不理会，因为他们已经投入了太多的感情和时间。
范·德·马克：请大家听听其他将直觉付诸行动的人有何高见。
霍华德·舒尔茨：你一辈子认识多少人是说过“我也曾有过那种想法”、“我早知道是这样”或者“我差点就成功了，但我最终还是放弃了。”我觉得有时候，成败输赢之间只是一步之遥，只视乎你是坚持还是放弃。
萨姆纳·列思多：你是没办法了解自己的。很多时候你只能凭直觉下判断。那么你的直觉是什么？直觉是经验，我认为智力从某种程度上说便是直觉。你要勇于冒险。
杰克·韦尔奇：获得自信是你成功的关键，贯穿你的人生。
保尔·萧：五年后潮流有什么转变，那便要靠你的直觉做判断了。但直觉真的是要来自经验，而不是指你某天醒来突然决定不做这个而做那个。真正的直觉是来自你对不同事物的明察秋毫。
马琳·麦克丹尼尔：我想一切的挫折都对你有利，这就是所谓的柳暗花明又一村。这些挫折可能早已注定，也许这是命运，我相信命运。但这些早已注定的挫折是要令你改变方向，也许你停留在某种状况下实在太久，已不会前进了。生命是要不断地学习和成长，而你要随着那股动力不断前进，动力是无时不在的。
注释：
1) hunch n. 基于直觉的想法
2) sort out 挑选出
3) in terms of 根据，按照，在……方面
4) intuition n. 直觉
5) steep v. 沉浸，浸，泡
6) observance n. 惯例，仪式
7) setback n. 挫折，顿挫
★★《2003年03月号-第39期-Disc02-09》★★
Campus English
Dialogue One: "I'm Always Two Steps Behind"
(Karen, Marvin and Tony are in the school cafeteria.)
Karen: I can't believe finals will be here in just two weeks. Once again, I'm not even close to "being ready"! You'd think that by now I'd learn how to 1)budget my time better.
Marvin: Welcome to the club! I was doing fine until after midterms. Then I took it easy. Now I'm paying for it. I have three research papers to finish in three weeks. Help!
Tony: You're not alone. I don't have any papers, but I have final exams and several books to finish before then. That's not counting all the review reading I'll have to do, either.
Karen: All my friends are in the same boat. I'm going to have to pull quite a few all-nighters during the next couple of weeks.
Marvin: Me, too. In fact, (checking his watch) I really have to get going, you guys. I've got a hot date...
Tony: How can you have time for a date when you've got all that work to do?
Marvin: ...with the library.
Tony: Oh, I see. Well, catch you later, Marv.
Karen: Yeah, Marv. Call me on the weekend.
Marvin: Right. Anyway, see you guys later. (He leaves.)
Tony: Seriously, though, Karen, you're a senior. You should have some good tips on budgeting time in college. You know, I was thinking of getting a part-time job next year because I really need more money, but I don't want to ask my parents for any more. But I'm so busy, how am I going to work and study? I know you have a part-time job. How do you do it?
Karen: To be honest with you, Tony, I don't think I'm doing a very good job of balancing my schoolwork with my job. I'm always two steps behind. If you do find a cure for always being behind, let me know, OK? (Checking her watch) I've got to get back to the dorm and continue writing that paper. Say! Why don't you talk to your advisor. And let me know! (She leaves running.)
Tony: (To himself) My advisor...
Dialogue Two: "I've Come to My Advisor for Some Advice"
( Tony pays a visit to his advisor, Dr. Hampton. He knocks on the professor's door.)
Hampton: Come in!
Tony: Hi, Professor Hampton. It's me, Tony Trembley again. I hope I'm not bothering you. I know how busy everyone is near the end of the 2)semester, but...
Hampton: Have a seat, Tony. I'm not that busy. Like everyone else, I have plenty to do, but I try to keep up with my work. Now, what's on your mind?
Tony: That's it! That's it exactly!
Hampton: I'm not following you.
Tony: Excuse me, but you were talking about keeping up with your work, keeping on 3)schedule. That's my problem. I can never seem to keep up with all my responsibilities, no matter how hard I try. And next year I'd like to try working part- time for some more spending money. If I can't manage my time right, I won't be able to do either well.
Hampton: Now that would be a problem, wouldn't it? I'm a believer in working to take care of one's bills, but I also believe you have to do things well, or they're not worth doing.
Tony: And so I've come to my advisor for some advice. I know this isn't an 4)academic problem, madam, but I'd really like some help with this one.
Hampton: I'm afraid the answer to your problem isn't in any of our textbooks, Tony. But maybe a little common sense will see you through.
Tony: I'm afraid I don't have much common sense, or I could figure out what to do on my own.
Hampton: Well, consider these tips for time management. First, don't bite off more than you can chew. Take a full study load - not more - and plan your time 5)accordingly.
Tony: I thought I was doing that now.
Hampton: Chances are you're not using your time 6)efficiently, Tony. Remember, too, "Work when you work, and play when you play." Divide your day and night into two or three hour periods when you can concentrate on either studying or working. Don't let yourself be interrupted by anyone.
Tony: I see what you mean. A lot of times I'll join my friends in going out after only an hour of studying. I feel good that I'm studying, so I go out with them.
Hampton: And if you plan your time week by week rather than day by day, you'll find you have more time than you thought possible. Including time for a part-time job, especially on the weekends. Well, give it a try. I'd like to know how you handle it.
Tony: Thanks a lot, Dr. Hampton.
Hampton: Now get back to your studies, Tony. Finals are coming.
Tony: You're telling me! (He stands up.) Thanks again, madam.
Hampton: You're entirely welcome. See you!
Tony: Bye!
校园英语
对话一：“我老是比别人慢两拍”
（凯伦、马文与托尼在学校的自助餐厅。）
凯伦：真不敢相信还有两个星期就要期末考试了。我这次还是一样，离“准备好”还差得远呢！你们一定以为我现在应该学会更好地分配时间了。
马文：欢迎加入我们！我期中考时都还表现不错，后来就松懈下来，现在我可得付出代价了：我得在三周内写出三份研究报告。救救我吧！
托尼：不是只有你才这样！我虽然不用写研究报告，可是我期末考要考好几门功课，考前还得读完好几本书，另外复习要看的书还不算在内。
凯伦：我所有的朋友处境都一样。后面两个星期，我得常常通宵看书了。
马文：我也是。其实（他看看表），我真的得走了，各位。我还有个重要约会呢……
托尼：你有这么多书要看，怎么还有时间约会？
马文：……与图书馆的约会。
托尼：喔，我懂了。呃，马文，呆会儿见。
凯伦：对啊，马文，周末给我电话。
马文：好，回头见！（他走了。）
托尼：凯伦，不过认真说起来，你已经四年级了，应该知道些优化分配大学时间的诀窍。你知道，我正考虑着明年找个兼职工作，因为我真的很需要多点钱，可又不想伸手再跟父母要。我现在已经这么忙了，到时怎么才能工作学业两不误呢？我知道你在做兼职，你是怎么做的？
凯伦：老实说吧，托尼，我觉得我的学业与工作兼顾得并不好，老是比别人慢两拍。如果你有办法解决这种“老慢两拍”，麻烦你告诉我好不好？（她看看表）我要回宿舍继续写报告了。啊，你可以去找老师谈一谈嘛。记得告诉我结果！（她跑着离开。）
托尼：（自言自语）老师……
对话二：“老师的良言忠告”
（托尼来找汉普顿教授，他敲敲教授办公室的门。）
汉普顿：进来！
托尼：嗨，汉普顿教授，又是我--托尼·川伯利，希望我没打扰到你。我知道期末人人都很忙，但是……
汉普顿：托尼，请坐。我没有那么忙，我和每个人一样有很多事要做，但是我尽量保持工作进度。好吧，你有什么心事？
托尼：对了！就是这样！
汉普顿：我没听懂你的话。
托尼：对不起，可是你刚说到要保持工作进度，按照计划来进行，这就是我的问题。我好像不管怎么努力，永远都没办法保持各种工作的进度。而明年我又想做兼职，多赚点零用钱，假如我不能妥善安排时间，那么两方面都做不好了。
汉普顿：那可成问题了，是不是？我相信用工作解决生计是好办法，但我也相信事情要办就办好，否则不值得花时间去做。
托尼：所以我才来找老师听取忠告。老师，我知道这不是学术上的问题，可是我真的很希望你能教教我。
汉普顿：托尼，这个问题的答案，恐怕在任何一本教科书上都找不到。不过只要一点小小的常识，可能就可以协助你过关了。
托尼：我的常识恐怕不多，不然我早就自己想出该怎么办了。
汉普顿：嗯，考虑一下这些安排时间的诀窍：首先是要明白“贪多嚼不烂”的道理，找出自己念书时能负荷的最大极限--不要再多--然后根据它来规划时间。
托尼：我想我已经这样做了。
汉普顿：托尼，你运用时间的效率可能不够。你还要记得“该工作的时候工作，该玩的时候玩。”把白天晚上的时间分为两、三个小时的时段，好集中心力念书和工作。不要让别人来打断你。
托尼：我懂你的意思，很多时候，我只念了一个小时的书，就和朋友一起出门去玩，念了书让我感觉很好，所以我就和他们一起出去。
汉普顿：而只要你一周一周地规划时间，而不是一天一天地规划，你就会发现，时间比你想象的要多出很多。拨一些时间去做兼职，尤其是周末的时间，就这样试试看吧！处理得怎么样，再把情况告诉我。
托尼：非常感谢你，汉普顿教授。
汉普顿：现在回去念书吧，托尼，期末考试就要到了。
托尼：这还用说！（他站起身。）再次谢谢你，老师。
汉普顿：不用客气，再见！
托尼：再见！
注释
1) budget v. 预算
2) semester n. 学期
3) schedule n. 时间表，进度表
4) academic a. 学院的，理论的
5) accordingly ad. 因此，从而
6) efficiently ad. 有效率地，有效地
★★《2003年03月号-第39期-Disc02-10》★★
Uriel Yak尤里专线 (1)
Uriel: Hello, this is Uriel. Welcome to Uriel Yak! I have with me in the studio Philip Short. Philip is a British man living in China. He's going to tell us about his experiences here. Philip, what made you want to go to China?
Phillip: Well, I think it's because of my grandmother. She used to live near the University of York, and many times she used to have foreign people to live with her for maybe five months at a time. We used to have Chinese people for, sort of, a few months, and Japanese people, French people.... It was quite an international house sometimes. And we used to go out to them with part ... to parties, and we used to go to the University and they used to show me around. And I was ... I was sixteen at this time. And the last people were, the last two was a man and a woman, and they were I think about thirty, and they ... they used to talk to me about China, hours and hours at night when they used to stay at my grandmother's house.
U: When you started teaching -- it was in Tianjin --you suddenly had a class of students. You'd never taught before, had you?
P: Never. No, never.
U: How many students did you have in your classes?
P: The first classes I had sixty-two, I think it was.
U: Sixty-two in one class?
P: Yes.
U: About eighteen years old?
P: Well, eighteen to nineteen, yeah. So that was quite ... that was, well ... hard to say the least -- controlling the back, the back ....
U: The back rows.
P: Yes, they were the worst ones. But slowly I began to pull them towards the front and the situation got better. I used to try and get them to think about China, and not take things for granted. And why China may be unique, and maybe why it's so different to England. So in a way I tried to make them understand differences about themselves. But, but ... for the best reasons.
U: What ideas did you come away with? Can you give us some specific pointers? Any particular themes that you were addressing with these Chinese students?
P: Yes, well, one of the main themes was young people.
U: Young people?
P: Yeah, and obviously they were teenagers, so the .... I think it's quite a major issue ... issue to them.
U: What about boyfriends and girlfriends? How are the Chinese different from the British people -- say, in your university, when ... when you were studying?
